Thursday, June 9, 2016

You know where you can put that wand of oppression? I vote how I want. A salon on choice

It is a bright sunshiney day here in the Land of the Fresh Water Seas, also known as Michigan.  The birds are singing, the breezes are lovely.  The plants are swaying gently as they grow with the delightful enthusiasm of springtime.  The scent of peonies wafts through the air and ….

Hold up.  Wayment (wait a minute). That smell under the surface. It is somehow spicy and earthy in a sickening kind of way.  Oh wait, I know.  It is that smell you get when self appointed Pagan authority figures wrap their opinions in bovine excrement burritos and attempt to serve them up as LAW when someone dares to disagree with their political positions online.

In other words, this very special salon has been convened in order to give a slight repast to the Death of “That Oppressive Bulls**t Right Here”.  The table has been set with Low John infused candles, ginger and lemon balm tea, and a lazy Susan of petit fours.  A cloth of lilac print ivory linen graces the table.  
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My guests are soon to arrive.  A brass cauldron full of roses and voter registration forms from various states is the centerpiece today.  Honeysuckle flowers cover them in a beautiful display.

*Opens doors to the salon.  The breeze seems to be moving bodies gently as folks step into the salon*
Mistress Belladonna:

Welcome Ladies.  It is a joy to have you here.  Please help yourselves to some cookies.  Now, shall I start this off with a simple question?  Where are these folks getting off telling people that they have the right to silence their opinions if they don’t tow the party line in paganism right now in regards to politics for this election?

I mean, who gets to decide where I place my vote?  Was there a meeting I missed or something?

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*Mistress Belladonna slips some rum into the teacup nearest herself*

Calico Kitty
I knew there was going to be shenanigans, I just didn’t know how much of it was going to happen.  It was REALLY ridiculous on Tuesday in California.  I *knew* games would be played, so I voted by mail early.  Also, people in general (in the community) have been behaving rather badly throughout this whole primary/caucus process.  It’s appalling.

Mistress Belladonna

As a former election inspector in the great City of Detroit, I saw enough foolishness to make a Shakespearean playwright blush.  Every election, people come out of the woodwork trying to shape the “Pagan” vote, like the “Black” vote, the “Women’s” Vote.  Hell, why not just have a day, ONE DAY, when it is the HUMAN vote?

Vote your conscience, that’s what I hear.  Then on the other hand, folks are telling me that they are getting blocked from the so-called “open space” Pagan groups and forums because they have a controversial or differing political view.  Suck my Lady Ballots.

Flat out.


Calico Kitty

And this is why I’m seriously thinking about how I might remove myself from the Pagan community at large.  There are still individuals with whom I’d like to carry on relations, but the overall Pagan culture can go fuck it itself.  Every year I go to Pantheacon, I see the ideas that I put forth, and the political radicalism I talk about get silenced when it comes out of my mouth, but then poached by someone else like it’s brand new.  I’m sick of it.  My only value I get out of it these past few years is what I’ve done in the PoC Suite, the panels I’m on, and the networking I do in private.  

The conventional programming and the culture that goes along with it can be blamed for the continued degradation of common sense and accountability to community.  Do you know there is a bona-fide two tier system in place for all these events?  One for the Pagan Elites, and the one for everyone else.  Pagan Elites get *sponsored* and subsidized while blasting their filth for all to see.  And I mean this in every sense.  I just try to steer clear of it as much as possible.  The whole Cherry Hill Seminary thing going on… not MY drama.


Mistress Belladonna

.Aww damn, are we gonna talk about the pitchfork cultures in our communities now?  The whole, “burn em all” thing we do when anyone is an ass?  My butt should be permanently glowing like an ember if that happened to me from every time I pissed someone off!  But yet, we enable this pillorying.

*tea pot begins to boil furiously, top rattling*

The Seer

I have been solitary for years...do not do the whole hierarchy thing… saw that type of behaviour in the whole Reclaiming debacle. The whole Pagan Elite and everyone else thing goes against everything Paganism should stand for. The best thing to happen at PCon is the PoC suite. I’m just going to say it….Calico Kitty, the poaching of your idea’s is reminiscent of normal behaviour i have seen in the Pagan community and outside of it. Need I clarify? Or do you get my meaning?  O, btw, did the Alllivesmatter T-shirts go over well. I did not attend Pcon.

**sips tea laced with rum….that’ll put hairs on my chest.

*The house iguana (who the hell let in a house iguana?!) holds up a middle digit and laughs at a comment online in a Facebook group about political expediency and why the divisiveness of PoC is wrong*

Calico Kitty  That’s how the shirts went… heh!
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*Danto peeks into the parlour*

Danto
 
My bad I think I let the house iguana out in my rush to get in here. You know I cannot be on time for ish!

Mistress Belladonna

People who are “Big Name Pagans” poach all the time!  It’s like it is their job.  I see it every day.  I call it out a lot, too.  Maybe that is why I don’t get invited to their parties.  That, and I am a vainglorious arrogant ignorant savage Fool.  But hey, I’m honest.

And since we are addressing poaching by people “of power”, how about the poaching of entire forums by heavy weight Pagan “leadership” when it comes to discourse?  How many were “Feeling the Bern” until it was announced he was not a winning team?  How many were standing with Hillary until yet another scandal came out?  And how many are standing with Trump on the sidelines of many debates, yet are in Trump supporting Pagan groups on the low?  Guess what?  


Calico Kitty 

 ^^ No lie detected here.

The Seer

 ^^All of the above. All truth there, again normal behaviour. Silencing is the worst trait, heard it was not that way in the PoC suite though. 

Danto

It’s the big name Pagans that are the most culpable in this whole thing. Everyone wanna be Black (and in an ATR) until it is really time to be Black. Long, involved conversations with the supposed elders and scholars in this community will leave you some kinda way about how they really feel about us. I’ve long asked the question as to how they can be in an ATR and ignore (and many times invalidate) the struggles of its descendants. It boggles the mind.

Oh by the way, those shirts are amazing. I am going to wear mine to every Pagan gathering I can.

Belladonna sets out dried sugarcane candy and a plate of carrot halwa*


Mistress Belladonna 

Maybe they can use those shirts to wipe the tears from their eyes as they get in their feelings when someone does not support their candidate. (Calico Kitty says, “Ka-CHING!”)

Just saying.

The silencing of the dissenting voice is what drove many to Pagan paths in the first place, is it not?  The right to question, the pursuit of personal truths beyond spoon fed dogma?

*whispers, the right to hex a mofo when needed*

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Danto

That is what I really cannot understand. I thought I was entering an open minded area of people who were down with the struggle of the oppressed. It is why the Occult is called THE OCCULT. It has to remain hidden because of the mainstream powers that be will try to kill it and US if they can. But noooooo hunty! I have come across the worst racists and sexists at every turn. If I wanted this nonsense, I woulda stayed in the Black Church!!! HUMP.

*grabs some halwa and chews angrily*

Sorry, I didn’t get lunch before I came.


The Seer
^^^^ Truth right there!!! It is all about control in the Pagan ‘community’ use the latter word loosely.

*iguana has hung pinatas of an elephant and a donkey from the ceiling of the kitchen.  It is currently setting a balefire under them in Belladonna’s good fondue pot.   The smoke detector was disabled long ago, due to constant smoke cleansings*

Mistress Belladonna:  

CUT THAT OUT.  THAT IS MY GOOD POT!

Calico Kitty:

I have a quick query.  What are everyone’s pronouns? I’m about to girlify real quick, but I don’t want to squick anybody who doesn’t identify or feel comfortable discussing lady parts.

Mistress Belladonna:

*sings "I'm just a girl .....



She, Her, Grown Ass Witch Who Does What I Want, Head Detroit Witch In Charge,  etc……

The Seer

Calico Kitty, please go right ahead...no worries here, love.

*Belladonna slides a container of brandied peaches around the table*

Danto

I go by girl/she here... Ooooh peaches! Sorry, I am easily distracted, but I have not been able to eat because the thought of having to vote for Clinton vs. Trump has had my stomach jacked up for a while now...

Mistress Belladonna

TRUTH.  Regarding what Danto said, some of those old school Big Name Pagans are more about control in this Pagan social life than Janet Jackson was when she collaborated with Jimmy Jam and Terry Lewis.  Sometimes I think that I will walk into the next leadership meeting and be greeted by folks in black jeans, surrounded by chairs and mirrors, doing back flips in a dance routine with their spotlight loving asses.

The Seer

More like Marilyn Manson with a weave...hexing everyone. Fear of losing control is so prevalent across the board in the Pagan community and outside of it. I see this on the daily and it just feels like we/me as a PoC has walked away from religious dogma and prejudice only to meet it again in the Pagan community.

Danto

Why you witches tryin to make me choke on my peaches? But seriously, what I am finding in the Pagan community is if you don’t tow the line with their foolishness, they will try to put you on the outside. Even if the things they do have little or no regard for the traditions in which they claim to follow, say something that they deem “out of line,” and watch them try to make you pay for it dearly.

*no lies detected^*

*Iguana is taking sips of rum, and the door has just opened a little wider.  The swish of skirts is heard and the scent of oils fills the room.  Everyone looks up*

Calico Kitty, is not feeling well.  So she has left us.  Time for Moon changes in her Lady Garden.  :).  We will save some tea for her.

Danto

Awww I hope you feel better. Sorry I was late to the party. :-(.

Mistress Belladonna

It is beyond just that Pagan community in general though.  It is a like a creeping slime mold that has infected almost the majority of alternative spiritual groups.  Sycophancy is the new Sexy.

Danto

I think this is the cancer of celebrity. Nobody cares about enlightening others and sharing new ideas and perspectives. Now it is all about, “how can I make them think just like I do so they will hang on to every word and buy my books, join my coven/house/organization, attend my seminar, take my online course” (insert money making venture here), etc. When you present information that goes against their grain, the cognitive dissonance is vile in its presentation.

The Seer

Yes. Agreed it feels like a liberty council member finding their way into Paganism but has not totally shed their opinions. I do feel that way that there are many sycophants inhabiting this spiritual arena currying favor from the ‘elites’ if you will. Thing is though, they do not know what to do with PoC, they cannot make us out because they have lost ‘control.’

Mistress Belladonna:

More like the Pagan Pusball version of the White Citizens Council.  Yeah, I said it.

*The Seer - clutches her pearls!*

Danto

And that is NO LIE. And don’t come to one of these “elite” and tell them that you’ve studied enough of the traditions you descend from (and they are misappropriating) to let them know that they are off base and out of line. Then the online lynching begins. Been there, done that.

The Seer

Glad you said it, now that is cleared up let's go!!!!


Mistress Belladonna

Let’s get down to business, and just lay the panties on the table - so to speak.  Everyone is trying to hide their dirty laundry regarding the legacy style oppression of PoC in the Pagan communities by dumping sage on it.  Doesn’t hide the stench of rot.

*iguana has fainted dead away in shock*

Danto
 
Awww poor baby!

*runs smelling salts under iguana’s nose…*

The Seer

Everything came out in the open when the PoC suite came to fruition, just by the mere presence of the suite caused whispers...even though they the ‘community’ knew it was coming it still caused the whispers. I did hear that some pagans felt a little insecure and would not enter. I got that information first hand. When I asked why….this person said...I think they wanted their own space...I asked why do you feel that felt that way...this person had no answer.

Danto

Oh to be a fly on the wall at PCon last year and see what they said about those shirts! You know what amazes me? These conferences have “Baron’s Boneyard Boogie” and Pomba Gira parties, and they wonder why this puts a bad taste in our mouths? I don’t know about their spiritual court, but ours have certain ways of doing things, and that ain’t it. When I see things like that (and some of the speakers they have), I wonder if there was a PoC in the room to say, “HEY! Stop it! Stop it right now!”

I am so tired of the mockery. Then to look at the speaker line up of these conferences and they are ALL WHITE. Really, and they have to ask why we wanted our own suite?

Don’t get me wrong, I have white friends there (Doesn’t that sound like them when I say it?). I see people I have love for, but feeling like I belonged there? I’d be a lie if I said I did. Did I feel like people respected who I am and my tradition/religion? Not so much. It felt like a show to me, and I don’t know what we can do to change that, but I want to.

*A woman rushes in like a flow of high tide.  Her presence bathes the room in power.  The teapot falls over onto the salt shaker.*

Yemaya
Greetings my sisters. Just catching up. This convo is giving me life this morning.
Oh no, I will never sugarcoat the pagan shenanigans. I've had long associations with Caucasian pagans, often being the only Black person in the room. As much as they sing about how we all come from the Goddess, they don't back that shit up when you get right down to it.

I spent nearly 15 years as a Druid priestess, five as High Priestess. I raised many white students in my coven, teaching and guiding. Several dozen over the years.  Ask me how many reached out to me when I began my activism in earnest. How many even speak to me once I started blogging and marching for Black civil rights. Go ahead. Ask me.

I can count them all on one hand with fingers left over.

I’m done trying to get through to Caucasian pagans. PantheaCon made sure of it. Having attended three times, it has become obvious that we need segregation in our sacred spaces.

As  person who suffered through the tail-end of forced integration in the late 60s, I gotta question what forcing black people and white people together has accomplished. Sure, we demanded equal rights and equal access. But we STILL DON’T HAVE EQUAL RIGHTS and we never ever had equal access.

*Belladonna raises a fist*

Danto

Man, I have often said that one of the things that ruined our communities was integration, and I don’t say this lightly because I have no idea what would have happened to us if it wasn’t for the Civil Rights Movement.

Everything from our spiritual practices to our children’s behavior has changed, and most of it not for the better. Segregation was horrible, but damn, we had to take care of each other. We had our own stores, banks, and other economic structures. I’d like to say integration was a good thing, but look at what’s happened to us. People fooled themselves in the 70s and became complacent. Everyone was like, “see it's all better now.”

Now we can clearly see that it is not all better, and open season on Black folks never ended. When folks want to tell me how far we have come, and then look at me like we were given some sort of magic wand (pun intended), and I see a white boy get six months for a rape he DID commit, and a brother get six YEARS for a rape he DIDN’T commit, I want to punch them right in the throat. Them’s fighting words to me. That is when you know they are part of the problem instead of the solution

Mistress Belladonna

Respect and love to you.  I will have to disagree with segregation.  I am an integrationist.  I do believe in segregation of douche canoe captains, though.

My vibe is that if there is a space that is held for persons of a culture, color, nationality, or other, then that space must be held and respected.  It is not there for tourism, appropriation, invasion, co-opting, conquering, or scavenging.  

When you visit these spaces as Other, basically, Shut the F*&J Up, you know?  I do not need a bleeding heart spraying their tears and guilt and banner, waving all over my ritual space, gathering, or anything else.  Get your therapy in on your own time.  I cannot stand, personally, Spotlight Pagan Hollywood fake ass allies.  All Paths are to be respected, so respect mine when it is time.

And another thing, there is a time and place for everything.  When someone is doing an Ancestral Ritual for their African Diasporic reality, that is not the time to insert your personal godform or cultural tradition because you feel

“It is not inclusive enough.  I feel that everyone should have the right to have their gods in this ritual"

I bet you got a medal just for playing, huh?  Guess what, Sweetling?  Your seat is waiting over there.

*The seer is indicating several seat these people may park their asses.*

Danto

And THAT is what is stuck in my craw!!! Lort! It’s an invasion. Nobody wants to respect the way things “are done” in ADRs anymore. Maybe this is happening in other religions/traditions, but I cannot speak on ones I am not part of.

I enjoy innovation just as much as the next person, but what the Pagan elite is trying to do in ADRs is KILLING ME. It’s funny, because when I am an Other in their sacred spaces, I am not sweeping in there and telling them that such and such god/goddess is really Black and you should make it more like meeeeeee.

Umm, hell no. I am there with RESPECT and wanting to learn. I seriously cannot deal. When you see their altars all jacked up and mish mashing things that are sure to piss off spirits, you can’t tell them NUTHIN cause they KNOW what they are doing. Well, that is when I pick up my broom and go home.

Calico Kitty

I’m back. A few vomits later and I can sit up and hold my tea cup out for another pour.  To address what Yemaya is saying, yes, I do actually agree that we need spaces that serve our needs.  Even in places where it would categorically make sense to be, we still are not prioritized, and other non-Black PoC talk over us.  I’ll tell you what pissed me off at PCon’s PoC suite this last time.  They had a closed door meeting where only White-Passing individuals were allowed entry.   To be frank, not everyone who claimed a seat in that room passed as white, but it was definitely a paper bag test if I ever saw it.  


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Yemaya

That White-passing POC meeting was indeed offensive. Most definitely a paper bag test. I have observed that certain POC who can pass enjoy claiming their black identity while expecting the deference that white people expect. They wanna BE black, but insist on being treated like white in that they expect a POC to treat them with kid gloves. That's been my observation and personal experience. All hell can ensue if white-passing women, in particular, get all in their feelings. What’s the old saying? “If a white woman cries, somebody dies.” Applies to white-passing tears too. It's uncanny! Best of both worlds. 
 
Danto
Once again, who did they consult with to check to see if this was gonna be okay in any, way, shape or form. This is repugnant, and reminiscent of pitting the “house slaves” against the “field slaves.” AGAIN, I ask, who in the hell thought THAT was a good idea. I promise if I would have been there, I woulda come into the meeting, and my yella behind would have SHUT IT DOWN. I just heard about this. I think I am gonna be sick. 

The Seer

I too agree with what Yemaya is saying. Calico Kitty I am so glad you shared that experience, it just goes to prove, factually what is happening. I am highly offended. It is clear there are places for the pagans of the white hue so that they may hold counsel, the same should be for PoC too, equality right?
 Someone commented on FB the other day;  “how come they see faeries and elementals but do not see or claim PoC and the injustices they suffer.”  

I find this comment so true. When things benefit them and only them they seek us out for solidarity, when the shoe is on the other foot though, they bleed the fifth. Selfish. We do need safe places for ourselves. I agree.

Danto
Man, I swear I’d probably still be sitting in jail because of the way I clowned them for that. It is mind boggling that some of the people who are so very brilliant and claim to “see” what mundanes do not, but they act like they do not SEE the news every day. They can claim the death of Trayvon Martin was not racially motivated. They will believe the lie that an unarmed brother would reach into a cop car and open a can of whoop ass on an armed policeman. Selective seeing much??? Believing in things that others say are not real is mandatory if you are going to be a Pagan, but damn, even that has its limits.Doing Research to See Where They Do That.jpg



Mistress Belladonna

I am truly blessed that ConVocation, and Michigan in general, is not full of this much ass hattery that you are sharing here.  We have pockets of it, but like Jason Mankey said, we are more like a gathering of the tribe, not tribes.

The separations do still exist, for example me being called “Colored” on several occasions, but it is not as openly rampant.

We also have the whole 8 Mile Road thing.  Yes, that movie really was talking about a real thing.  It’s like trying to convince someone that there are not lampreys in the lakes.  You know damn well they are there, but the likelihood of getting bitten is low.

I SAID “OPENLY”.

Calico Kitty:

I’m really tired of it.  Putting in sweat equity and money only to see other faces and names and random ass people who aren’t even Black show up to eat the fruits of my labor.  I spoke with you once at that bakery, Yemaya, while eating that dry ass gluten free concoction they called a “brownie”, that we should start a tradition of a retreat for Black Spiritualists, so we can just go and BE.  So that we don’t have to expend our precious time we have together talking about how to deal with the crap thrown at us while we’re there, spending money among folks who don’t care for our presence anyway.  Our reasons for separation aren’t even the same as what white pagan segregationists are talking about.  

Yemaya

Cosigned Kitty! We are truly wasting time and precious life force dealing with white pagans. It's way past time for a black spiritualist church. How do we proceed? What do we need to do to get started?

Danto
 
I am throwing my support to the Dawtas of the Moon: Black Witch Convention in October for sure. We also have the Hagar Spiritualist Church here in Columbus. I am going to help support the spaces and places that make us feel welcome and treat us like we are as valuable as their other attendees. 

The Seer

Cosigned Calico Kitty. Dry ass Brownie….lol.  Ok, when PoC want to do something for themselves for the betterment for themselves...it is called separatist? Again, i feel it comes down to fear of losing control and just plain fear. I want to just BE...we want to just BE...tired of doing for other and not ourselves, we are always left on the shelf. Just need a time where we just worry about teaching and celebrating ourselves, our ancestors, our communities.

Danto

I don’t care what they call it. We did not created the need for Miss Black America, Black fraternities and sororities, and we certainly did not create the need for this. Their dismissal, and sometimes downright disrespect and mockery, of us has caused the need for this. The reason why they don’t get it right even when they try, is because they ask some PoC who was hand picked. THEY DON’T SPEAK FOR ME. 


*swings hand and spills tea…*

My bad, lemme clean this up. *grumbles*


Mistress Belladonna

I had an idea several years ago regarding something like this.  An African American Magickal Diasporic Family Reunion and Picnic held in each state.  Not Pagan Pride Day, but a day that is a gathering and celebration of our experiences in a joyous and graced space.  Because there isn’t one.

It doesn’t have to be exclusionary.  It has to be FOCUSED ON TOPIC.  

Danto

I was saying the same thing! Oh gods, please let this be A THING. I will help! I have the bad habit of interrupting people when I am excited, please go on!
Mistress Belladonna

You don’t see me running to hang out in the Scottish National Pride Day, do you?  It is because I ain’t Scottish.  But I am going to be at that Sicilian Sausage Festival because that is part of my traditions and part of my heritage.

(although, secretly, I will be hanging out watching the men in kilts from the bushes.  I love the way the fabric bounces when they throw that caber.  Don’t tell my husband, he is a grumpy Polish German Green Man and gets jealous) #Scottishkiltthirstgame

Sometimes it’s ok, people, to just let folks celebrate their heritage.  It’s ok.  We do not have to insert ourselves like a renegade tampon into everything in the name of being down with everyone.

That is where we always seem to see the balls dropped.  You know, the ones our leaders seem to never have when speaking to power?

Yeah, I said that too.

Danto

That is what I keep trying to tell my clients. Not everything is FOR YOU. You gotta know when to hold them and know where to fold them. Seriously, why does everyone have to be EVERYTHING, and be blatantly disrespectful when they insert themselves in a situation where observation and respect are key.

We need places for Black Magickal families to go. We need the support we cannot get from our own people, whites who practice some of the same things as us, and from the world in general. We need this so badly!!!

Yemayá

Preach Mistress Belladonna

*from the area just above the Ancestral Altar, a voice just shouted out “WELLLLL!”*

The Seer

Food and celebration good idea. I suppose I just want no interference, when celebrating PoC, since we have been ostracised for so long pushing for us comes to the forefront for me. So, this is what i am going to say...listening, acknowledging and being open to learn is a big part of being able to attend cultural gatherings...especially if you are new or a visitor….it is out of respect and plain courtesy to do all of the latter, i just have not come across or seen that, hence why i am all out for a place of our own. 

Danto

Exactly. Only people who are clueless (or guilty) about why this is needed will have an issue, and to be honest, I am not thinkin about them. Anyone who says “why does it have to be a Black thing” has never experienced what it is like to be Black.
*Mistress Belladonna gets a phone call*

Mistress Belladonna

Pardon me, ladies.  Hello?  Yes, we are here right now.  You wanted to say something about the election?  Yes, we are also talking about that.  Okay, I will put you on speaker phone.

Ladies, say hello to Law Vigilantess!

Law Vigilantess

Good grief- if people can't dissent then WTF is the point? The art of good natured debate is dead. RIP.

Honestly I think that debate is a fundamental part of protecting the process. Once we start telling people who they "have to" vote for, we have problems.

We can and should share our opinions, but it needs to stay about US and OUR opinions. Not maligning anyone else's.

Mistress Belladonna

Exactly

Law Vigilantess

Of course, the BIGGEST problem right now is that that electoral process is in question as to it's structural integrity. And THAT is the source of my ENTIRE issue re: candidates in the first place.

If Hillary is given the nomination under a compromised system, she didn't actually "win". If the process is verified and found to be structurally uncompromised- and she legitimately won the popular vote, I could respect that. What I CAN'T respect is the idea that the fraud in the system seems SO obvious and nobody seems to give a flying rat's ass.

I mean, I'm not going to go out there and say for certain that fraud is taking place. However, it's clear that there is enough to raise serious questions and the fact that it's going unchallenged in large part is horrifying. THAT is what we should be uniting on and fighting tooth and nail to protect- not which fucking candidate gets a nomination or not.

Mistress Belladonna
And how do you feel about the censure of people who bring up political issues in the Pagan “BS- sphere”?   Like race, politics, etc?


Law Vigilantess

I am 100% opposed to censorship.

Mistress Belladonna

It is beyond censorship. It has progressed to banishment based on strong positions

The Seer

Obama has endorsed HRC….

Danto

I saw that and emitted a heavy sigh.

Calico Kitty
I think this election cycle has been educational for a lot of Americans.  They learned that their popular vote doesn’t matter when the electoral college actually casts their vote.  They learned that the Super Delegates don’t have to give a fuck about what anybody’s doing in the polls and we can’t know who they’re going to vote for in advance.  We vote for people who will vote on our behalf in a mysterious way… that’s a little shady. 

People also learned that technology can be artfully doctored to produce desired results.  And if that doesn’t work, you take away people’s access to a proper non provisional ballot by force.  And they learned that the most “liberal media” gave Trump $3 Billion worth of free advertising.  That is, MSNBC and CNN.  They covered him more than Fox News.

Mistress Belladonna

Those panties are still not getting any better with the sage on them.  And the electoral skullduggery this year has its own set of draws on the washing table too.  There is not enough Tide, Shout, or All to clean this mess.

Let’s help them out.  Let’s give them a universal candidate song….  




*Belladonna grabs the vesta powder and throws both pair into the virtual fire pit*

Calico Kitty

Gentlefolks, it’s been a pleasure.  I hope you have a wonderful and productive rest of the day!

*Belladonna wraps up some scones from the sideboard.  They are peppermint and honey flavored.  She gives them to Calico Kitty.*

Danto

Bye Calico! Oh look the iguana has come to!

Law Vigilantess

I think that people have the right to self-select who they associate with.... at the same time, I am also a proponent of freedom of speech, and if one self-selects based on arbitrary and judgmental reasons that they are not free from the consequences of that selection.... In other words, you can be a bigoted asshole, but I have the right to utilize my freedom of speech to call you a bigoted asshole.

(and I have no problem calling someone a bigoted asshole...)

Of course, someone else may choose to utilize THEIR right to freedom of speech to call ME a judgemental bitch because I oppose their bigoted assholery.... That's their right.

(See how this works?)

It's a continual volley of opinions. One exchange isn't the end of the game and, as they say, opinions are like assholes- everybody has one.... I think what we are losing (or have lost) in this culture is the ability to agree to disagree and to know when debate has progressed from constructive to destructive.

At the point nobody is changing anybody's mind and it's clear opinions differ substantially, the honorable thing IMO is to agree to disagree and move on. And to be nuanced enough and with enough emotional intelligence to be able to see people as more than the sum of their differing opinion. Just because someone disagrees with your particular political "flavor" or preference doesn't mean they are a "bad person". There is more to a person than their stance on any one singular issue.

Danto

I just cannot stomach any of the candidates. I know my Ancestors died for this, but I am still wondering if I am going to exercise my right to vote. The idea of Trump as president is a nightmare. This is what just popped up in my Instagram feed. I don’t think choosing the lesser of two evils has ever been so true.

*Belladonna starts bagging up items for her guests.  She is thankful that no one was trifling and brought tupperware ---- just saying*

Mistress Belladonna

I am truly honored to have hosted you all in this salon and am sad that we have to cut it short due to the house iguana needing to be exorcised.  

Danto

Thank you for having us!
Mistress Belladonna
Bye, Law Vigilantess.  Go fight the good fight and drink some Barbancourt Rhum for me.

Ladies, it has been a wonderful salon.  

If you would like, you can take the pinatas with you to the next Trump rally.  They can pop them open and enjoy the lovely surprises inside.   Hope they like onion and asafoetida flavored mints.

And thank you, dear witchy readers, for spending another afternoon in my salon.  Here the tea is always hot, the teapots are always getting destroyed, and the tongues are on fire.

Blessed Be and save a ballot for me.

(Why is the rum gone?)





Thursday, May 26, 2016

Steampunk art fundraiser for Michael Wiggins at the Phoenix Cafe Aug 5


The loss of Michael Wiggins to the magickal and creative communities of Michigan has been a emotional blow to all of us.   The Phoenix Cafe responds to honor his legacy by hosting a one night Steampunk themed show of artwork.  This serves as a way to give his memory a creative tribute as well as raise money to both honor his family and install a permanent Steampunk display.  Michael was one of the founders of the cafe, and the society that has grown from it will be out in fine form.


Michael often had generously donated the use of the Phoenix for many community events and organizations at little cost.  Pagans In Need and the Universal Society of Ancient Ministry were gifted its use for their Toys For Yule drive.   Members of the surrounding community were able to participate in the open charitable give away.   Multiple families were able to pick up toys, clothing, and material supports through this experience that otherwise may not have been reached.  But that was just the kind of man Michael was, he facilitated the wondrous.

The Great Lakes Witch's Council held many Wheel of the Year holiday rituals at the venue, and for that we are eternally grateful.  MEC hosted many coffee nights there in its the venue's early years.  Other private groups with charitable causes had been assisted by him many times.  And of course, Dungeons and Dragons was always an option.  A long list of thankful souls will remember the ever changing chalked event board with a smile.



 
They are currently looking for steampunk themed artwork.  Artists are requested to submit up to five images of their work to Phoenixcafeart@gmail.com, with Michael Tribute in the subject line.  The work should be in accordance with the theme.  July 30, 2016 is the absolute hard deadline for submissions.

The event is set for Friday, August 5 at 6:00 pm.  The Phoenix Cafe is located at 24918 John R Rd, in Hazel Park, Michigan.   Look for the image of the Phoenix painted on the side of the building.  Parking is in the rear.


Daft Punk - Harder, Better, Faster, Stronger (Cover by Steam Powered Giraffe)


PBN Blues Series: "Garter Snake Blues" by Victoria Spivey

Sometimes as magickal/spiritual workers in the business of selling our services to clients, we find that we are helping folks who are generally not held in the best regard in society.  Cultural mores and standards can come into play when dealing with sensitive issues.  Infidelity is usually a topic that makes many people pause.  But if you are in business, and if you can separate your personal beliefs that may be opposed to the subject, then this installment of our series could be of use to you.



Various products exist to exact vengeance and the infernal fires of torment on the cheating partner and their paramour.  Gender roles do not matter, nor do sexual orientations.  Almost universally in the human condition, the heartbroken will seek compensation.



By film screenshot (RKO) [Public domain]
However, what of the cheaters?  Where do they seek protection and service?  How do they keep the affair hidden in order to not cause harm, in  their minds, more than they feel they have?  This is when your door may open one day and in walks the proverbial "other man or woman".  Now, this will take some turns, so let's get started.



How to lose two clients



Floyd J. and Lynn N. have come to your shop on a mission.  They are there to seek the right wares and spells that will allow them to continue a clandestine affair without any problems from their mates.  They have been very careful, but Lynn N. believes that they may be nearing the end of their luck.  So they are looking for a way to keep the heat off of both of them.



At this point, Floyd J. chimes in and adds that there is another factor to this.  You see, both couples meet every Wednesday night and play cards at the local bar.  So they are in close proximity on a regular basis.  Suspicious glances have begun to be shot their way by both mates during the games.  While it has remained friendly to this point, they are beginning to feel that they may be about to be caught.





You decide that the best thing for them would be to cease the affair.  They tell you that that is not an option.  Both of them were swingers before they got married, and have continued their relationship in spite of their vows.  They have been together for over a decade.  But both have children with their partners and do not wish to break their homes.



 After listening to their story, you decide that you will lecture them on why they are selfish and wrong.  You follow this up with advising them that they should ask for forgiveness of their spouses and come clean.  You conclude with an offer to give them a marital healing package for both couples so that they can start to regain their marriages.  And then you watch them walk out of your store and slam the door.





How to better handle a delicate situation if you choose to take this one

 
Floyd J. and Lynn N. have come to your shop on a mission.  They are there to seek the right wares and spells that will allow them to continue a clandestine affair without any problems from their mates.  They have been very careful, but Lynn N. believes that they may be nearing the end of their luck.  So they are looking for a way to keep the heat off of both of them.






At this point, Floyd J. chimes in and adds that there is another factor to this.  You see, both couples meet every Wednesday night and play Spades at the local bar.  So they are in close proximity on a regular basis.  Suspicious glances have begun to be shot their way by both mates during the games.  While it has remained friendly to this point, they are beginning to feel that they may be about to be caught.



You ask them if this is a long term situation, or if it is a fling.  This will help you determine what kind of work is needed.   They tell you that they have been together for over a decade.  They met while both were swingers.  Their only concern about being caught is to not break up their homes, as they both have children.



Because you have decided to take on this case, you have decided to caution them that no working is 100% fool-proof forever.  You make clear that they must be ready to take on the consequences of their actions if discovered.  The advice you give is that they should take all mundane precautions to guard against their exposure if they are to have a successful working.



For the secret itself, you have decided to suggest the Uranus Oil method to start.  To this you consult on how they can best avoid detection through both concealment, persuasive speech, and shut up work.  Finally, you strongly recommend components and workings to strengthen the relationships and familial bonds of both family groups.  You clients leave, and you close your till.



 Because they like to play cards, you have also suggested that they might wish to reinforce their works with playing card spells.  This is a simple form of magick, and would allow you to custom design a blend of herbs to go with the spells.  No suspicion about carrying cards comes into play in this scenario, as practicing solitaire can be claimed.



In the above example, the shop keeper made a decision to provide services for persons who they may not have had an approval.  They kept it professional, and still offered counsel to the clients on responsibility and the limitations of spell working.  You might wish to consider what your personal practice will entail in regard to matters such as these before they come to your door and you find yourself unprepared with a response.





 "Garter Snake Blues" by Victoria Spivey

PBN Blues Series: "Bad Penny" by Rory Gallagher

Thank you for joining us, once again, for our PBN Blues Series.  This entry will address a common working requested by clients that you may run into from time and again.  The subject addresses how to help a client who has turned their life around to a positive path only to find that they cannot get a member of law enforcement to let them move on.

As a practitioner in the business of dealing with the magickal/spiritual world, you will encounter clients from all walks of life.  Pillars of the community will have their names mixed with the criminal on your roster.  It is up to your own conscience what sort of services you provide.  In this example, the business owner is open to performing work for all clients without judgment, so this particular customer felt comfortable in bringing this matter to the counter.

Jodi W. has a problem.  She at one point was a member of a notorious and violent street gang.  Several years ago, she had a life changing epiphany and decided that her old life and associations were no longer for her.  A moment of clarity, and two gun shot wounds to the chest, gave her a "change of heart".


 By Marcocarvalho (Own work) [CC BY 3.0 (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0)], via Wikimedia Commons


But the aftermath of her redirection has taken her into a world of fear and harassment from  her former gang to resume her old activities. Also, a police duo that has made it their personal mission in life to bust her.  Neither group believes that she has really changed.

Jodi W. comes to your shop for help in getting peace in her life and ending the constant intrusions on her life.  Upon further discussion, you find that moving away is not an option.  She is the caregiver of an ailing family member.  So the solution must address this as well.

Quick cash, but is it thorough

You decide to give her a Law Stay Away Candle, and some Compelling oil.  The first for the police, the second for her former constituents, in order to keep them away.  You advise her how to use them, and tell her to come back in two weeks to resupply.  Your client leaves, you count your money, and end of the tale.  This is all she could afford today, so this is all the service she will get from you.

Perhaps a bit more care and a bit more customer service

Jodi W. has a problem.  She at one point was a member of a notorious and violent street gang.  Several years ago, she had a life changing epiphany and decided that her old life and associations were no longer for her.  A moment of clarity, and two gun shot wounds to the chest, gave her a "change of heart".




But the aftermath of her redirection has taken her into a world of fear and harassment from  her former gang to resume her old activities. Also, a police duo that has made it their personal mission in life to bust her.  Neither group believes that she has really changed.


Jodi W. comes to your shop for help in getting peace in her life and ending the constant intrusions on her life.  Upon further discussion, you find that moving away is not an option.  She is the caregiver of an ailing family member.  So the solution must address this as well.

This is where looking at the whole scope of what is going on in her life comes into play.  Several factors are in this case.  The use of candles is an option here, however, since there are layers of issues it would be appropriate to work on many layers of defense and protection to fix this.

Because you are actually engaged with the client, you have been able to reason out and prioritize what  concerns are most pressing.  This is a multifaceted set of circumstances.  You explain that it has to all be handled in little bites.  

Jody W. may not be able to afford everything at once.  You set up an approach that can accomplish things little by little over time.  This is where understanding how to assess the client's conditions are important.
By Vectorportal (Vectorportal.com).
 [CC BY 2.0 (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/2.0)], via Wikimedia Commons
  First issue at hand is that of the police.  A casual observer might have placed this concern after the gang members.  But this would be a mistake.  The organization wants her to return and work for them, so they are not currently as threatening to her movements.

The team, let's call them Officers Wilson and Pickett, are actually really good people.  But good people can become jaded in  any profession. They have seen it all, and don't like any of it.

So over the years of dealing with the person that she once was, they have placed her into a box in their minds that identifies her as criminal for life.  And with the powers that have been entrusted to them comes a lot of leeway for being overly zealous for her "type".  Driving by her home every shift, stopping her randomly to ask her what where she is going, and them randomly showing up to her job has become a living nightmare for Jody W.  She has even lost employment over this pattern of behavior.
Ilya Repin [Public domain], via Wikimedia Commons


So the first priority is to secure her home, person, and workplaces from torment.  You suggest a penny spell as quick perimeter ward for her home.  A combination of oils, including Law Stay Away, is added to her supplies along with appropriate candles.  Finally, as a first step, you decide to help her put together a banishing work to remove their influences.

Jody W. expresses concern that her past associates will eventually get tired of waiting and may turn violent in their insistence.   She lights a cigarette in the back parlor of your store, and you allow it as you are zoned to permit this small calming practice.  You let her take a moment, and then get calmly proceed to address the protective workings that are on the list you  completed at the counter.


In the matter of the gang members, you list a set of workings that included banishing, red brick dust, protection, and a shut up spell for good measure.  Being a bit proactive, you also suggest poppy seeds and calamus root be added to a component list in order to confuse their efforts.  This will take time, and the client has been instructed of this.   You also suggest she work with whatever spiritual guardian energy is in accord with her new belief system.

For later visits, you have assorted components for bettering her employment situation.  Boss Fix mixed with Bend Over oil is at the top of the list, of course.  You make sure to voice your support for her decision to leave the old life, without being judgmental.  A smile and a good word are worth more than you know, and genuine good will helps to create a good place in her mind regarding you.

She purchases what she can afford, and makes a shopping list.  You duplicate this list and keep it at the counter, so that steps and purchases can be marked off as they are picked up.  You set a small box to the side that has her initials on it.  This contains her items so that they will be ready for pick up.  This is possible because you have a rapport.  Jody W. leaves, and you have served your client in a reasoned fashion.

There were a multitude of ways to handle this client's issues.  This way is not the only way, and may not be one of the best ones out there.  However, it does take the time to look at all the parts of the case so that the client has the best outcome possible.  Sometimes it is not about "cash and dash".  Especially when dealing with the people from the past who keep showing up like bad pennies.

 "Bad Penny" - Rory Gallagher

 






Tuesday, May 17, 2016

PBN Blues Series: "Tell it like it is" - Aaron Neville

A spiritual worker for hire should never be so obsessed with money that they lie to their clients.  When deciding how to proceed in a job, it is of utmost importance to remain focused that it is exactly that, a job with a finite amount of involvement in this client's life.  One should never make a career out of an client's life path.

 By Xuan Zheng (https://www.flickr.com/photos/68002200/4001633830/) [CC BY-SA 2.0 (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/2.0)], via Wikimedia Commons


That being said, one of the ways that integrity shows is to be truthful with your client.  Be mindful that you are not overly offensive or blunt, but speak plainly and with compassion.  Seek not to inflame, nor to exert negative influence.  Be impartial, yet always on track for the best possible choices and paths for the client.

As we will often do in this series, let us entertain two examples of a situation.

A way that may not be the best for the client

Messilina T. walks into your shop and has an issue.  She is in the middle of a dispute involving a roommate.  Both sides have become angry and are not seeing eye to eye enough to even speak to each other at this point without screaming.  She has decided to hex the roommate in order to make her complacent and bend to her desires.  She has come to you for your advice on custom work.  You agree that she should do this.


 You find, after speaking with her at length, that the issue is that she has decided to adopt a pet.  The roommate is allergic to pets.  She has decided to overpower the roommate and force her to live with the situation and abide.  She eyes the calamus root, a skull candle, and some other wares.  You encourage her in the situation, add your own spin on the working, and sell the collection of tools.

Two weeks later, the situation has become more volatile.  The roommate has blown up and they are almost at blows.   You decide to amp up the spell work and advise her how to do so.  It continues to escalate, and then you have an unhappy customer, one with a lump on her head and a restraining order.

A way that may be a bit more desirable
 
 Messilina T. walks into your shop and has an issue.  She is in the middle of a dispute involving a roommate.  Both sides have become angry and are not seeing eye to eye enough to even speak to each other at this point without screaming.  She has decided to hex the roommate in order to make her complacent and bend to her desires.  She has come to you for your advice on custom work.  You ask more about the situation and state that it is important to hear the whole story, since she has decided to come to you for custom work.

You find, after speaking with her at length, that the issue is that she has decided to adopt a pet.  The roommate is allergic to pets.  She has decided to overpower the roommate and force her to live with the situation and abide.   You ask her if she has considered that the addition of a pet could be harmful to the roommate, and asks if she has gotten a divination on the situation in order to examine her choices moving forward.  You explain that divination could give her a clearer focus.  She does not agree.


Richard Mauch [Public domain], via Wikimedia Commons
 As a responsible worker, you know that the situation will escalate, as a normal person will not agree to allow something that will bring them harm.  In this case, the roommate would not sanely comply with the addition of a pet that would compromise their health.  Therefore, it would be better to do a work on how either the living condition can be changed, possibly a St. Expedite Spell.

It would also be important to work on the income and money management of the client so that she will have a choice in whether to stay or go.  You attempt to explain that magick cannot turn people into mindless zombies, and that she should consider what is doable in the current situation if she stays.  And lastly, you may also suggest a reconciliation working in order to normalize communication in the home to mend the rifts.  (This would be followed up by a clearing and blessing of the home).

Be prepared

Messilina T. may not want to hear this.  She is angry, hurt, and a little bit selfish right now.  There is a strong chance she may reject your counsel.  At this point, your can proceed to serve her or turn her down.  She is free to do her own work, of course.  Or she can find another worker.

She decides that she wants to banish her roommate.  She purchases a bottle of Four Thieves Vinegar and a multitude of bottles.  Her plan is to clear out the roommate and anyone else who is on the roommate's side.  You complete the transaction and watch her leave.  Ultimately, it is her decision.

The important thing is that you have maintained your integrity, as well as ensured that the caliber of your work is not compromised.  Your wisdom in understanding that doing futile working will damage the client and your own reputation has saved you unneeded drama.  And this is all achieved by telling it like it is, being forthright, and being a better magickal business person. 

As a trade, we do not sell morality.  At our best moments we can attempt to educate the client so as to assure a desirable outcome.  But never forget that they have not come to the shop in search of morality lessons.  Just serve the truth and let it ride.


 Aaron Neville - "Tell It Like It Is"




Michael Wiggins memorial May 21, 2016

Taken too soon from us, much respected and beloved Michael Wiggins will be honored with a memorial on May 21, 2016.   One of the strongest pillars of the Michigan Pagan communities and societies, his transition is an enormous blow to many who knew him.  Known to many through ConVocation and the Magical Education Council, the Ren Faire community, the dance circles, Up in the Aether, The Phoenix Cafe, and more, he touched thousands.




The memorial will be held at DoubleTree by Hilton (5801 Southfield Expressway, Detroit) located at 5801 Southfield Expressway, in Detroit.  This hotel will be familiar to any who have been to his events.  Hosted by the Magical Education Council, it promises to be a service befitting of his standing.

A GoFundMe account created by Claudine Durham has seen over $7,000 pour in to help with the financial matters related to the memorial and the family.   This public service is the opportunity to celebrate the memory of this man as he lives on in our hears.  For the sharing of stories is how a life lives on in this world.  And Michael’s story was a masterful one, indeed.

Arrival and gathering begins at 4:00 pm.  This will be followed by a short service at 5:00 pm.  This shall lead up to the wake.   Which is the joyful celebration of his memory.

Come and share a story, raise a glass and honor the man who thought that nothing was better than a good party. – ConVocation/MEC



Wednesday, May 4, 2016

An announcement from the Universal Society of Ancient Ministry on the passing of Michael Wiggins


This morning, May 4, 2016, Michael Wiggins passed from this life into the next one.   A showman, magickian, artist, visionary, dancer, and renaissance man.  He was also a man with a compassionate heart.

A loving description by his wife, given when he was announced Pagan of the Year in 2013 CE.
 

Michael has technically been a part of the Pagan Community since birth, being blessed by his mother’s Gardnerian Coven when he was born. Michael Wiggins has kept his long standing involvement in the Pagan community ever since in many different facets: co-leading a private teaching group for friends and children of friends; attending “Meet Your Local Witch” nights at the long-gone Lavender Moon Cafe; being involved in various events throughout the Michigan and surrounding areas and of course his service with MEC and ConVocation
As President of MEC (Magical Education Council) Michael has been the face of Convocation for many years and has done a wonderful job of getting the convention to
grow and expand each year, bringing in a welcoming environment in which everyone to be free to be who you are.
Michael is also an accomplished artist, constructing a variety of steampunk art as well as other genres in a wide array of mediums, and performs the last 3 centuries of dance with a historical dance troupe.

Michael was a truly beautiful soul.  A witty conversationalist, one evening, I had the privilege of hearing a little about his story as a young boy growing up in 60's Detroit.  You never knew what insight you would get, but it was always something thoughtful and surprising.   His wisdom helped shape a vision of what greatness and beauty that can be ours if we grasp it.  It sustains those of us who knew him.

Hail the Mighty Dead.  Blessed Travels, Michael.


Addendum:

An  account is being set up to help with the expenses associated with the final expenses and to assist the family.  This unexpected time has created a shock among us, but for them it has changed their lives forever.  Remember this, and send a prayer from the heart for them. 

There will be a public memorial service on May 21, 2016.  The exact details are still in process, so watch for updates.  If you are like many of us, this will be a day to request off of work so that we can mark the passing of a man I refer to as Pagan Michigan's Ard Ri.

If you are able to help monetarily in any way, send any donations to the Michael Wiggins Memorial Fund on GoFundMe.